In the secular culture its much more cut and dry when it comes to asking people out (or hooking up as the case may be). And as a guy it’s really hard to navigate that culture. The Christian dating culture has made this so complicated and confusing.
Some even go so far as to say essentially, “This is why Christian women end up dating non-Chrisitan men.” According to these folks, if all the Christian guys would just ask women on dates then everything would work out. One of the things I’ve heard over and over in recent years in the Christian circle of singles is, “Why don’t Christian guys ask the Christian girls out?” This can be said several ways but the message is essentially that guys should “ man up” and ask out all the Christian girls regardless of who the women are.